Friday, November 5, 2010

"Congratulations on your BLOG,"

  my client said to me the other day while I was in his office. I was elated!  To be recognized for something I am passionate about versus getting married or engaged is life changing for me.  Honestly, I never thought in a million years that I would ever hear the word "congratulations" unless I had finally found a boyfriend, husband, had a baby (or changed my relationship status on facebook :D).
  Just several months ago, as I walked into one of my offices I had no choice but to lie that I was engaged.  "Orli, I am so happy for you! You did it! You made your deadline," an office manager squealed  from behind the desk.  My surprise announcement would halt the endless list of questions about my personal life.  Then she glanced down at my hand.  "Where is your ring?" was her next remark.  I replied that more stones were being added at the jeweler because it simply was not big enough.  "I'll show you next time," I said.  I never went back to that office.   Being congratulated under false pretenses "didn't do it for me" and I most certainly didn't deserve that kind of treatment for being a single girl. 
  Being single is a "blessing in disguise" because you can really take the time to invest and indulge in your life's purpose.  Personally, this "blessing" will never replace finding a mate.  However, the slight shift to devote more time to "me" has brought a sense of balance, hope and control. 
  Choosing to celebrate your single status with what is inspiring to you,  releases the power to embrace your independent lifestyle.  The desperation to "squeeze" yourself into a relationship fades and a new life for you begins. The last time I checked, wedding dresses are not being sold out in the bridal salons.   For now,  I love writing my blog! XOXOXOXO.


  1. Reading your blog is like talking to a friend. I love people who write as if they really speaking to the reader. Congrats on your blog! ;) hahaha!

  2. Continue to read and I will share and write for you! I love your comments. Keep them coming! XOXOXOXXO Orli