Wednesday, October 27, 2010

"I need to find a man."

  Many single women in the city say this to themselves constantly on their search for love and acceptance from a boyfriend figure.  It is not only heartbreaking but is also infuriating to hear.  To need anything implies that if you don't have it, then you have nothing.  I know a lot of beautiful, independent and smart women in this city who simply don't give themselves the credit they deserve just because they haven't met the right person yet.  It is self-defeating and changing your story is vital. 
  What does changing the story mean?  Changing the story means that your life is "all good" all by its self.  Changing the story says, "No, I have not met him yet. However, I will keep my life interesting and full and do the things that make me happy.  No, it's not what I pictured.  Yet, I am grateful for my life and it's exciting because you never know what could happen." 
  Remember this!  That it only takes one day and one person.  One day, no matter how long you've been on your own,  you will meet your match.  Having a negative attitude that you need to find that guy to complete your life will only transform you into your worst enemy.  Be happy and content because "the grass isn't always greener on the other side."  Just maybe if you take a step back and look at your world, you would see that it is pretty darn amazing. XOXOXOXO.  BE GOOD TO YOU!


  1. Love it Orli!! Well said! I think this speaks to something lacking intrinsically. Many of us were raised to believe that you got married by a certain age, had children by a certain age etc.... However when life doesn't follow the plan that we have mapped out for ourselves we become lost. Who am I? What's wrong with me? Furthermore many people define who they are by their possessions...their material wealth and on some levels their relationships. This existence that constantly focuses on what we "need" instead of what we have hinders us from enjoying the life we already have and the journey....good and bad that has made us who we are today.Life is perspective. Keep up the good work! Bryce

  2. millions of years of biological and evolutionary programming that are culturally, socially, psychologically, and emotionally validated as legitimate are difficult things to transcend.
    the buddha figured this out over a thousand years ago: desire is at the root of all our suffering, and only when we can transcend our desires can we truly be happy and free.

  3. i see whatever you live, girls has the same problem