"Give yourself the experience of letting go."

  That is what I told my friend today who is constantly struggling to find that perfect relationship.  When he goes out with a person  for a short period of time, and for whatever reason it doesn't work out, he beats himself up.  He is his own worst enemy.  It's really unfortunate that he is so tormented by these short lived relationships because he is such an amazing guy.  He has a fabulous career, he's very attractive, he's smart, outgoing, has a nice circle of friends and has a wonderful family.  I told him that just for today, he should just let this experience wash over instead of replaying in his head, what he could have done to make it work.     
  Letting it just go, believe it or not, gives you strength to be able to say "You know what, it's ok, this one didn't work, but I'm not going to kill myself over it". You can't control how what other people will do or say.  You only have control over yourself. A lot of times when these short  romances don't work out, it's not about you, believe it or not, it's about them sometimes too.  People waste so much precious time and ENERGY with the beat down process after something doesn't work out.
   It's takes six months or longer to get to know someone.  You can not let someones snap judgement of you bring you down because they do not know you.  You also do not know them, and giving them too much credit is dangerous for you because it discredits you.  If you let go once, you can do it again and again and again! The best news is that the quicker you let go, new life, people and experiences rush in that much faster!   xo xo xo xo xo xo