Saturday, October 2, 2010
What happens when you take a man off the pedestal....
As you get older you come to a point in your life where you have had experiences and you are more mature and it just gets harder and harder to connect. This can sometimes reveal itself as being cynical but it's just realistic and you should embrace it. As little girls we have watched Cinderella, Snow White and Sleeping Beauty and there is always a prince charming to sweep his fairytale princess of her feet. The women who get married at a younger age typically will jump in more and take her husband off the pedestal later. OY! This is probably the reason why many (not all) people do not stay together, because they don't see each other for who they really are and just really want to be in a relationship.
So if you make the decision to wait for marriage and begin to see men for who they really are, it becomes also really complex because all that charm and illusion fades. The good news is that if you wait, you can discover yourself enough to know what you are willing to accept in a partner and what you are not willing to accept. So is it better to get married younger and just deal with the consequences and the cards at hand making it work day after day where it may work or is it better to go solo where you meet someone later in life and know the compromises you'll have to make up front. I really don't know! What I do know is that it's really important never to "lose your girl". Meaning, your ability to have faith that you can still be impressed from time to time when someone can really take your breath away!