Saturday, October 16, 2010

One-night stands. A fashion do or a fashion don't?

  You're feeling physically ill, mentally defeated, you're in a bad mood, you're calling your friends incessantly to ask for their opinions and you might just have to take a personal day from work.  Yup, you've just had a one-night stand. 
  My opinion stands firmly on this concept, one-night stands should be against the law if you're not capable of handling the consequences after the deed is done.  You know when you're in the moment whether or not it's the right or wrong thing to do. 
  A good friend of mine (a male friend) once told me, "At work you don't get health benefits for 90 days, so why should it be any different in our personal lives."  Giving up the benefits will not secure your fleeting relationship.  As a matter of fact, it works in the complete opposite direction.  You lose.  You give into the moment, and the chances of a future potential boyfriend are greatly diminished.   I'm not saying that there aren't circumstances where it just works out, because there are exceptions.  I'm not talking about the women who are mentally equipped to deal with this tender situation and the ladies who are not looking for any long term benefits. 
  Use your head and listen for those chiming bells because they are ringing and you can hear them loud and clear.  When you're looking for those durable relationships, beginning with friendship will serve you in the long run.  XOXOXO Never beat yourself up.  Live and learn, and most importantly please protect yourselves.

1 comment:

  1. Orli,
    I think you are making great sense here. I mean, you have no idea who this person is or what their intentions are when you give up the benefits package in the first 90 days. I think this even goes both ways; even men can give up the benefits package. I know many women these days who are pretty aggressive. but yeah, it's usually the other way around.
    Keep these transparent thoughts coming. :-)